actually I just did it from the graphical to setup the wireless. turned it on, selected network, entered key, all worked. bounced it, everything was up and working. moved it to where I want it to live, connected and all still good. so I'm assuming there was an update in the latest version that allows the onboard wifi to be used.
ssh - nope, was completely unaware had changed. logged in with that, yep pw works. thanks for all your help. would not have thought to simply see if new image was available and test that. I would have continued to bang my head against that old one trying to get it working.